Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Everyone needs a feel good moment...

IVF Update:  Lupron injections are going well.  J has given each injection to me so far even though I am perfectly capable of doing so myself.  I like him to be involved so I prefer it this way.  He's a great nurse!  I had my last birth control pill yesterday and am looking forward to good ol Auntie Flo's visit.  I have an ultrasound on the 28th and I start follistim the 30th.  Crossing my fingers that this cycle goes better and further than last!

Everyone needs a feel good moment...

One might think that a person in the interior design profession would automatically be able to dress themselves since they are able to "dress spaces".  Not so much.  I am wearing the same pants I bought from Old Navy in my college days to work---7 YEARS LATER!  Oh, and I compliment my old navy pants with target tops!  I hate shopping!  I have the hardest time putting an outfit together and therefore shopping is not fun for me and I don't want to spend a lot of money on clothes since they never look good on me.  While shopping, I walk around aimlessly, picking up items, putting items back, trying items on, etc, etc.  For two months now I have told my dear husband, Jamie, that I am in need of clothes and for multiple weekends we have brought our coupons to Macy's, I banned him from the misses department (because he follows me around like a puppy which makes me CRAZY), I shop for an hour or so and then meet him empty handed.  This happened at least three weekends in a row. 

Last weekend we had two dinner engagements scheduled with family members and I told Jamie I needed something to wear.  He said "this time we are getting you an outfit even if I have to buy one for you myself".  So we went back to our beloved Macy's, coupons in hand, split up and an hour later, I met J downstairs in the men's department with a black shirt and a silver purse.  He looked at  me and was like, "Amber, this shirt looks like everything else you have".  He ignored the purse because he hates it when I buy purses, but what can I say...they always fit! 

Anyway, next thing I know I am being led through the mall by my wrist.  He asks where he should take me because Macy's doesn't seem to be cutting it and I say J.Jill.  I stop to use the restroom and when I came out he was standing in front of J.Jill with his hands in his pockets and the biggest smile on his face.  I smiled back, thinking nothing of it.  So I go in the store and start browsing and Jamie still has this sh!t eating grin on his face.  Next thing I know,  a sales associate greets me...BY NAME!  She tells me she understands I need some new clothes and is here to help.  She sent me back to the dressing room.  I was terrified at first of the thought of someone else picking out my clothes but I went with it and 3 hours later I emerged with a new spring wardrobe!  The sales ladies were all smitten with J, saying I'm so lucky to have such a thoughtful husband.  I gave him a big hug at the register and then hugged the sales woman that worked her butt off.  I needed help but was afraid to ask.  What started off as a terrifying experience turned out to be such a gift.

J later said to me that night..."I know that when I look good I feel good and I know it will do the same for you."  With all of the IVF stuff looming in our lives I haven't been taking care of myself.  I dress like a tragic mess and  stopped wearing make-up anywhere because the IVF meds have broken my face out so badly.  For the first time in a long time I dressed nicely for work and wore make-up this week and I have to say I feel so much better.  I have pep in my step and it's all thanks to my loving, thoughtful hubby.  A big thank you to my husband, I only hope I can do something for you one day that will make you feel as good as you have made me feel.  I love you.

33 comments:

sienna said...

hi there - greetings from ICLW. that is sooo sweet of your husband to get you a new wardrobe! sometimes, it's the little things, like a nice outfit, to make us feel a little better and give us a spring in our step.

i'm wishing you mucho luck on this ivf round. i met a girl through babycenter, who had her 1st ivf cancelled for same reasons as you, and now she just transferred 2 blasts on day 6. have *faith* that it's your time :o)

Glass Case of Emotion said...

What a sweetheart! And what a smart idea! It's hard to feel good about ourselves after IVF and Infertility, but sometimes a new outfit can work wonders. You are worth it!

Keepontrying said...

I am a new reader to your blog! You have a fantastic husband!

TeeJay said...

What a wonderful experience for you. My DH would never think of that. He doesn't mind shopping with me sometimes, but for very brief periods of time. He would never wait 3 hours for me to find new clothes. Kudos to your Jamie!!

Oh, and I'm glad the shots are going well and still wishing nothing but good things for this cycle.

Katie and Howard said...

What a great DH you have!!! What a sweet story.

Its exciting about your cycle and I'm glad the shots are going well!

Alex said...

What an amazing husband you have! I have the same problem - I don't like shopping because I don't like my body, and I think everything looks awful on me. But it sounds like your husband did an amazing thing for you!!!

BabyWid said...

Happy ICLW!

Your hubby sounds like a great man. You are very lucky to have such a great support system! I wish you all the luck with this round of IVF. I hope it ends with a BFP!

I think I will follow you on your jounrey!

Priscilla said...

That is so sweet!!!

Vanilla Bean said...

What a nice hubbie! I keep looking for updates from you...I hope things are going well for you this round. It is amazing how some new clothes can lift your spirits!

christine said...

Here from ICLW!

I LOVE the shopping story! What a sweet guy! New clothes always help me feel like a new person too!

I'm hoping your next cycle works!

Mrs. Gamgee said...

Woohoo! So sweet! Could your dh have a conversation with my Beloved? :)

DeniFay said...

Wow! What a sweet hubby! Mine would be looking at me like a deer in headlights saying everything looked 'fine' on me (exactly what you want to hear right!!??). I know that with infertility people don't realize the havoc it reeks on your body, from the weight gain, to the breakouts, to the overall bloated/uncomfortable feeling! So, I sympathize with not wanting to shop, but I can say a good (non-pushy) sales person can make all the difference! I'll bet you look like a million bucks! Wishing you so much luck on this cycle!

-K said...

Awww, your husband rocks! Good luck with everything. Great blog, can't wait to read more. I'm your newest follower from IComLeavWe.

-K
http://mypottyseat.blogspot.com/

daega99 said...

Your husband is the man!!!!!

ICLW
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Browniris said...

Good luck with your IVF and I am glad you were able to get a new spring wardrobe! It sounds like you have a very sweet hubby.

Sooz said...

That is so sweet and thoughtful! You're a very lucky woman. I only wish I could get my DH to go shopping with me.

I'm glad that the lupron shots are going well. Hang in there -- it'll be worth it!

ICLW

Wishing 4 One said...

Jamie is da man for real! How super super sweet. And how sweet that you are so set now and from J. Jill very cool. Happy iclw and best wishes for your next cycle.

Miriam said...

What an amazing husband :)

Happy ICLW!
~Miriam (ICLW #34)
Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed

Basic Girl said...

Happy ICLW!! Best of luck on your IVF cycle!! I just finished my first IVF and am currently in the 1ww...the wait is just killing me!! Look forward to following your journey!!

Crossed Fingers said...

AW what a great story! I love that he did that for you. My husband refuses to shop with me because I'm the same way, wander around, try stuff on and always leave empty handed!

ICLW #119

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Busted Kate said...

Hello and Happy ICLW!

Glad you were able to take some "you" time, you definitely needed and deserved it.

Following you now, and hope you'll come by and visit me too! :-)

ICLW #100

Melissa G said...

Awwwwwww, what a fantastic husband.

Your shopping experiences sound disturbingly familiar to the ones I've had... I mean the bad ones - not the J. Jill one. Btw, I love JJill, I'm 5'10 and have a horrid time finding the right pants, but theirs always seem to fit. Next time I go in, I will most definitely ask for help.

Best wishes on your upcoming cycle, I look forward to following your journey.

Angie said...

Greetings from ICLW land! Your DH sounds just lovely. I think he's a keeper! Glad you got a new spring wardrobe out of the deal!

ICLW #48

Just me said...

That's awesome! My husband doesn't really get that. He doesn't understand how unattractive I'm feeling with the fluctuating weight that goes along with all of the meds. He figures if he thinks I look good that should be enough! LOL

Kudos to J. :)

ICLW

Dr. Edward Ramirez, MD, FACOG said...

Visiting you from ICLW! I'm an RE who blogs. It has been an interesting and challenging experience to visit & comment on all the blogs in this very courageous group. Yours interested me because PCOS patients present a challenge in as far as getting the meds just right so that your stimulation succeeds. It looks like you are on a long protocol & hopefully the adjusted dose you are getting with this second cycle will give you good results! I invite you to visit my blog to see some of which I have posted re PCOS patients. You have an excellent chance at success, remember! Your age, understanding of the protocol and your great attitude are a winning combination! Good luck with your journey...ICLW #7

subfertilefrugalista said...

What a gem!! You are one lucky girl. Wish you had shared pics of your finds...I'm a shopaholic and love J Jill! I was going to suggest that you need to RUN, not walk, to the nearest Ann Taylor LOFT store! It's my favorite place and I swear they have the most amazing stuff for work, casual, dates, etc. Love love love it. But J Jill is good, too!

I hope you enjoy your new wardrobe and good luck with the upcoming IVF cycle!

iclw

Amy said...

What a sweet surprise from your husband! My fingers stay crossed for you for a successful cycle!

lmc5004 said...

I hope IVF #2 is it for you! I look forward to reading more into your journey! =)


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rebecca said...

Happy ICLW! What a wonderful day, your husband sounds so sweet...glad you're feeling better & have a beautiful new wardrobe to go with it! Hoping IVF#2 brings you a BFP:)

GraceesMommy said...

hi, just stumbled across your blog and wanted to say blessings to you on your baby journey. my husband and i tried for many years to have a baby and decided to try another way to become a parent..adoption. We did not start trying until we were older so time was a big factor for us. we adopted our daughter gracee seven years ago and it has been a dream come true. so just wanted to let you know that your blog brings back sooooo many memories! blessings to you.

Kakunaa said...

What a fabulous hubby! That's so totally Pretty Woman. Good luck on your stims....I should be starting mine in.....maybe 6 weeks??? Happy ICLW.

Stefanie said...

Your husband sounds so sweet, and it's normally the smallest gesture that goes the longest way!

~Stopping by for ICLW #126

Ernie said...

That's awesome! I am with you on shopping, and I wear the same clothes FOREVER. My husband is always giving me a hard time about it. I really should get a sales associate to help me! What a sweet story.

And best wishes through this IVF cycle. I hope all goes well!