Tuesday, October 5, 2010


So much to say, so much going on, both good and bad...mostly good though.  I had a long three day weekend, love those. 

Kicks-Thursday night Jamie and I were watching TV on the sofa and star was kicking a lot so I scooted down to his end of the sofa and told him he should try and feel her.  Sure enough, he felt two kicks from her.  It was amazing.  She would kick and he would look down at his hand and then at me and our eyes met in amazement and I said "that's her" with a smile.  A few minutes later the same events happened again.  We went to see a movie Saturday night and she kicked for the first half of the movie but J couldn't feel it, probably because I was sitting up instead of laying down.  She was kicking away at my Dr. appointment yesterday.  I was sitting in the waiting room of the ENT I was referred to and looking at facebook while resting my phone on my stomach when star kicked and my phone bounced.  It was so cool!  I love that she is getting stronger and stronger.  Little girl has some pep!

Miniature golf-One of our favorite things to do for fun is play miniature golf.  In past summers we have played 15 times total or so but over the last couple of summers we have only played a couple of times.  J and I like to place wagers like doing all of the laundry to get the game heated!  One summer we even decided we needed a championship round where we would play on a course we never played on before to determine who was the Champion.  We drove from Missouri to Illinois and played in Belleville.  It was neck and neck until the 18th hole when I said something about a snake just as J was about to put and I clenched the title!  Ha ha!  I still have the ball to this day!  Okay, so in the back of my mind I know I won because my man is definitely afraid of snakes but I had to do something, this was the championship!  But don't think for a second that cheating doesn't go both ways.  Our very first time playing in San Antonio J altered the score in his favor so I lost and after he admitted it, I won!  Anyway, we played a whole two times this summer and it appears that I have become worse and worse at our beloved game.  I don't remember the last time I won...don't tell J I am admitting that.  J kicked my butt at the beginning of the summer and then again Saturday night.  I was winning the first 9 holes and it was all down hill from there.  J won fair and square.  I suppose our next game will be in Naples this December while on vacation.  There are two courses we play at down there, one of them uses gallon sized paint cans for holes and Jamie lost at that one!  I had to laugh!  How can you miss a gallon size paint bucket hole?  :)

Shopping - Every weekend we do a little bit of sale shopping for Star.  We look for great prices on out of season merchandise.  We hit the mother load of all sales at Old Navy!  They had an extra 50% off of already reduced clearance items!  We had been there the weekend before and opted not to buy some items that were a little too expensive for our blood and went back this weekend and the same items were there but an extra 50% off!  We got probably 12 pieces of clothing for $15.  Score!  J said later on that he felt we were robbing them.  Too cute.  It's fun looking for deals together.  Jamie is coming around to a girl too.  We were at Macy's when I pointed something out for a boy and said "this would be so cute for a boy" and he said "boy's schmoys, girls are better."  Love that!  Anyway, we hit up many stores that night and left with a ton of clothes for $60.  It sounds like a lot but when you consider they go through a lot of clothes a day sometimes and grow like weeds it isn't that much really.  We still don't have enough night time items and have only purchased items 0-6 months so far. 

The nursery - It's coming along.  I came across vinyl wall decals for three trees at $89.00.  To save money I painted them myself by projecting the image from the internet on the wall, tracing and filling in the lines with paint.  I used paint colors from around our house because they are free and I wanted the room to fit in with the rest of the house.  For the paint colors I didn't own, such as the leaves I went to Lowe's and purchased $2 paint samples which provided more than enough paint to do the job.  I only purchased the white glitter for the birds and the 3d flowers making this a very affordable project.  For the white paint under the glitter I used trim paint we owned.  I painted leaves on the trees next and then attached 3D paper flowers and added glittery snow white birds on the branches.  Above the crib will be a clothes line connecting the two trees and Stars real name hanging from a clothes line.  I plan to add other white critters like cats, and rabbits around the nursery as well.  I ordered 20 3d white butterflies for above the changing table as well.  I can picture it and am thrilled with how it's turning out so far though I wanted to paint over it just a couple of days ago.  I hope she will love her room one day and I look forward to her pointing to the animals and naming them.  I have some artwork planned for picture frames as well.

So sweet.

For a little extra feel good music, Jamie and I are going to see Michael Franti tonight.  I first heard his music the day our first egg retrieval was scheduled and it really hit a place in my heart.  Now that I am pregnant it holds new meaning for me, I will write about the concert tomorrow.  I can't wait to listen to his music and I hope star can hear it too!


Liz said...

Your room is ADORABLE! I love it!

This may be the first time I have commented. I have been reading for several months now and I couldn't contain myself after seeing your super awesome nursery! :)

Also, congrats to you for finally not wanting to be victimized any longer. I think you are headed in the right direction towards your happiness.

Glass Case of Emotion said...

That is exactly our plan for a baby's room, very cool. Glad things are coming together. I love mini golf too!

Mr and Mrs. Stoneking said...

wow looks BEAUTIFUL!! I LOVE it!

Alex said...

I love your nursery – I’m so incredibly impressed that you were able to do this yourself – wow!!!

As for your mom, I think we might be related. At the minimum, your mother and my mother might be related… I’ve received this letter. I’m 35 years old, and I’ve received many letters over the last ten years that are the exact same letter – all about how terrible I was as a child and teenager. And yes, I wasn’t great. But I didn’t get pregnant (oh wait, maybe I couldn’t…), I didn’t do drugs, I didn’t do irreparable damage to my life, never was in jail. And yet, I have received countless letters about how awful I was growing up. And I have heard – oh so many times – “I hope you have a daughter just like you!” And it wasn’t in a nice way, it was intended to be a curse.

At one point, I tried to talk to her about it. Tried to apologize for all my bad behavior. Told her I would change my behavior if I could. It didn’t help. I try to avoid the topic now. We have a decent relationship – not good. But I don’t allow talking about the past. I don’t want to rehash everything – AGAIN. She keeps trying, and I keep saying no. That’s the only way I know how to have a relationship with her. I don’t know what to say about your situation. All I know is the only way for me to move forward was to make a decision. Do I want my mom in my life? My answer was yes. And the only way that it could happen is to not discuss the past. We seem to be ok in this now. It’s tenuous at best – I never know when or if she’ll bring stuff up. But it works, for now.

If you ever want to talk about this, I’m open. You can even call me. Just email me at adventuresofalex@gmail.com

Nick and Kristi said...

Your Nursery is sure coming together....Made for a little princess:)

T said...

I love that song! Thank you for sharing all of thw words. I admire you for moving on and doing what isbest for yourself and your family. I am sure it would be hard, but you have really tried everything. Time to make yourself happy!

I love how the nursery is turning out! I had started thinking about deign ideas and really like the trees. It is all turning out perfect for your little girl!

Thanks for checking in on me. Everything is good. I have just been so busy...ok and maybe a little lazy. :)